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Season 4 · Episode 50
0.056mOctober 2, 2026
Why does healing feel so hard, and why doesn't "regulating your nervous system" fix it? Nervous system expert Masha K returns to break down what the internet gets wrong about nervous system regulation, why regulation has become the new perfectionism, and what capacity really means in dating and relationships. We talk about why someone can love you and still not meet your needs, how to handle being triggered by a text, why "if he wanted to, he would" is bad advice, and what's actually going on when an avoidant partner shuts down. Masha explains somatic experiencing and titration in plain terms, how to stop ruminating and overthinking, and why building stability in your whole life matters more than any quick trick for calming anxiety. If you're dealing with anxious attachment, a painful breakup, emotional triggers, or healing from childhood patterns, this episode gives you real tools for healing trauma, feeling safe in your body, and building healthier relationships.